I CAN'T!

I am not racist, but I am real. I love all types of people but I am not afraid to openly discuss, admit, observe and report accurate stereotypes (ie. Indians can't drive.) But I am sick of the ignorance that presents itself in the discussion of men and their disrespect of a black woman. Before I am ANYTHING else (student, friend etc.) I am a black woman and I am getting tired of the blatant down-putting that we receive.

Like this:

This is despicable. How can you have a black mother, black sisters, a black child and make such a statement?

I have no problem with interracial dating. AT ALL! I have dated and find men of different races attractive also, But denying and shunning your own race is disgusting. It's like people are missing the fundamentals.

Personal preference and desires will outweigh expectations but it does not supersede respect. And that ^ up there ^ is intolerable. There is nothing acceptable about a race disrespecting it's women. ...And that goes for any race.

Furthermore, I not only blame the ignorant state of man, I blame our fucked up media for consciously altering the subconscious minds of the masses. Continuously leading us to believe that if you are not white, "exotic," skinny, long haired, part of the upper tier socioeconomic category, have received formal higher education (scratch that obviously, no one gives a fuck about education anymore with the DUMMIES that people are obsessed with ie. Kim Kardashian, All of those 'Hills' people, Beyonce, etc.) or singing a damn sambo song you are not worthy of being seen by the masses. UNLESS YOU ARE ON A VH1 SHOW WHORING YOURSELF OUT FOR 15 MINUTES OF SHAMEFUL FAME and then you are not only a joke but a joke with no dignity.

Besides that, no one cares about your opinion or what you have to say. And this is not to say that there are no deviants (Oprah) but...she arrived in like 1990, it's 2010, where the fuck is the progress?

I have no clue what race the man I'm marrying will be, but hopefully by the time I have kids, my future daughter will never have to feel neglected by people that look just like her (figuratively speaking) and I won't have to embed in my son that all women should be respected.

Hopefully I won't have to make my children understand that although all cultures and races are beautiful, don't deny who you are as an individual nor who you are as a people. Hopefully things will be different. Because it pains me to see this. It doesn't make me hate white girls or want to be any different because I fucking love me. It really just gives me a bleak outlook for the future of self-identity, self-worth and how I'm going to have to unteach my kids the sad perceptions that today's EVEN SADDER society is being led to believe.

some "nigga shit."

Although the OVERALL issue of dark skin v. light skin, may have unknowingly affected the way someone perceived me, they have never directly told me and I have never heard of it so I don't really know what other chicks go through with being told about their skin color.

Maybe because I ride that line in the middle. I'm, by no means, light skinned and yet would not be considered dark skinned. I am a self-proclaimed brown skinned person. I'm lighter than hot chocolate but darker than coffee with cream. I'm darker than a brown paper bag but lighter than mahogany. But when summer hits I'm deep, dark brown and I loooove that too.

However, shit like this disgusts me about OUR PEOPLE AS A WHOLE!





I'm not one of those people who believe that anyone's wrong for their personal preference because to keep it 100, I LOVE ME A CHOCOLATE, SMOOTH BODY man. GOTDAMN!

Here goes the nitty-gritty: Chocolate men have a presence. Often times darker skinned men have a more even complection. My thought when I see a sexy dark skinned man is that he can give me that good-good, talk to me dirty, and his sweat tastes like cinnamon. And don't let him have a ill body, too! Then it's a done deal. Often when I look at (tanless) light skinned men I see the color of raw chicken. SRY!

All in all, I've had my share of light and dark men. My last and most serious boyfriend was mixed and light skinned and I loved when he had a tan because that shit just made him look yummy. And my last boothang was lightskinned and sexy as all hell.

OK I'm rambling...

Point is, this shit has got to go. This is no longer a debate, black people. It is WHAT IT FUCKING IS! I prefer dark skinned and Joe Blow probably love him some LSLH. WHO THE FUCK CARES ANYMORE?!

I believe that the main issue is people think "Who the fuck are you to like something that you're not?" That's what it seems like. Like, you have some nerve liking blasian, blaxican or dominigga bitches when you're a dark skinned nigga. But get over it! That shit is done! But if you have self-hatred and don't like dark skinned or light skinned men/women because you have identitiy issues or a problem with who you are, get that shit checked out, pronto!